What Is Pegging, Exactly? Here’s Everything You’re Dying to Know

What Is Pegging, Exactly? Here's Everything You're Dying to Know

It's been literal years since that episode of Broad City when Abby used a dildo to anally penetrate her hot neighbor, and people are still not over it. While the show gave pegging sex some good PR, unfortunately, there's still a lot of stigma and confusion surrounding this sex act. (Thanks, toxic masculinity.)

Luckily, more and more people being vocal about their love for butt stuff - including pegging - regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Curious? If pegging is something you've been wondering about (or maybe freaked out about), here's all the information you need to know, including answers to: what is pegging? how do you have pegging sex? why do people like it? and more.

What Is Pegging?

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? "Hey Alexa, define 'pegging.'" ? It's simple: Pegging is anally penetrating someone with a strap-on (a dildo secured in place by a harness).

While the act of pegging sex goes back a very, very long time, the term is relatively new. It originated in a 2001 poll conducted by sexpert and podcast host Dan Savage in which he asked listeners to come up with a word for this sex act. Pegging came out on top (pun intended), and it seems to have stuck quite nicely.

"Men have been enjoying anal penetration for thousands of years, but the name pegging is relatively new - as are public discussions of anal sex outside of a homophobic context," says Cyndi Darnell, a sex and relationships therapist in New York City. (Related: For Real Though - Does Anal Sex Hurt?)

What's the Appeal of Pegging?

A lot of things, actually. For one, the person on the receiving end of pegging sex gets a chance to explore anal penetration (which, FTR, can be pleasurable for anyone).

There are plenty of perks on the giving end as well. A strap-on gives a person without a penis the chance to explore what it is like to have a penis. (Sounds fun, right?) This can offer a novel sense of control; as the giver, you can internally pleasure your partner in a way you haven't before. Plus, if you have a clitoris, grinding against the butt of your partner can feel quite intense, much like masturbating. (Many harnesses have a pocket in front where you can place a small vibrator for extra stimulation.)

"Pegging can also have an element of dominance/submission, though it doesn't always have to embody those mental aspects," says Lola Jean, a sex educator and professional BDSM practitioner. (So if you're curious about BDSM or power play, pegging http://hookupdate.net/de/lumen-app-review could be a fun way to explore it.)

If you're a woman who has sex with men, using a dildo on their rear may sound very hot and empowering, but some cis, hetero men are still worried that having something up their butt can "make" them gay. Of course, this mode of thinking is ridiculous; nothing is going to make you gay because being gay is not a lifestyle choice, and the physical sensations you enjoy during sex don't dictate your sexuality.

To that note, no, pegging isn't just for straight people. It's a sex act available to one and all, regardless of gender or body parts.

How Do You Bring Up Pegging with a Partner?

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PSA: Like any other sex act, it's vital that everyone involved in pegging be 100 percent on board. Enthusiastic consent is the foundation for all amazing sexual experiences.

  1. Come prepared. Darnell suggests using an outside resource on pegging (such as this article, hi!) as a conversation starter. With information in hand, you can begin a conversation about whether it's something you both would be interested in.

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